You know the rhyme “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” What a lie! Bones will repair, given time and minimal help. Words take a long time to get over and we don't really know the physics to make them go away.
I had a nightmare last night in which someone was telling me something I didn't want to hear. I think it was lewd and suggestive comments from someone. In the nightmare I was in a place where I couldn't move. Anyway, I started screaming. Woke myself up and lay there wondering what you should do when you can't get away from the person, for whatever reason.
My husband had a boss who cussed his employees out on a regular basis. He couldn't get away from that and still be gainfully employed there.
I was watching a movie last night which was too scary for me. My hubby said, “Don't be a wuss.” I can be a wuss if I want to. But I have found that scary things are MUCH more scary if I think they might conceivably happen to me. If they are just beyond my imagination, I enjoy the show. If the main character is a bad guy, I enjoy the show. But when the person getting hurt is someone who was in the wrong place at the wrong time, I kind of freak. Too much imagination and not enough control, I guess.
What are the worst words anyone's ever said to you? Are you over them? Or do they stick in your head and roll around in there popping up at the most inopportune times?
“You'll never be pretty.” “You can't do this.” Etc.
I guess this is the difference between how women and men look at things. My wife is a senior executive in a multinational and she often goes through this same type of angst; four years ago I was a manager in a multinational and I fired people, she won't. We discoverd that part of the reason was cultural, she's Chinese, I'm an American, but the real kicker was that she 'felt' for the people she had a problem with and I just wanted them out of my face.
I guess my point is that you are going to either accept that this is part of your life as a woman or you are going to kick some ass- my wife accepts, I explode.
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