A person I was speaking with today learned that lesson.
I had called her and been told I had to talk to person B. I called person B and talked to them. They said it was okay with them but the first person (A) would have to make the final decision. So B transferred me over to A. Apparently A’s phone said B was calling, so she answered this way.
“So, [my name redacted]”
I think I said “yes”
“What’s up with her? She is so rude. We’ve talked about her before.”
I didn’t say anything here. I was wondering if I should hang up, so that she wouldn’t be embarrassed to find out she was talking to me. But I didn’t think that would work. So I didn’t say anything.
Person A figured out maybe I wasn’t person B after all. “This is B, right?”
“No,” I said.
“Oh, I’m so sorry.”
“Ms. B transferred me over.”
“I’m so sorry. I’m so sorry.”
“She said that if there was room in the class, I could take it.”
“Oh, yes. I’m so sorry.”
“It’s at 4:30 today, isn’t it?”
“Yes, I’m so sorry. It’s at 4:30 today in [place redacted].”
“All right. I will see you there.”
“Yes, I’ll look forward to seeing you there.”
Person A has had me in a class before. I have never been intentionally rude to her. I didn’t know I had been unintentionally rude to her. She’s a very smiley, nice person. (Which now makes me wonder if she’s a total fake, having been on the receiving end of gossip about myself.)
I don’t believe I have spoken to her in person more than twice in the class before.
She didn’t impress me as a teacher but, though I mentioned it to friends, I did not talk to anyone at the college about it.
So I don’t know what she thought I did that was so rude she would have multiple discussions with someone I don’t think I have ever even met, but…
I guess I will apologize to her in class tonight. I certainly did not intend to do anything to upset her.
She probably didn’t intend to do anything to upset me either. She certainly had no intention of telling me to my face I was rude. But she has upset me. And I’m sure she is embarrassed herself and not too thrilled that I will be in the class with her this evening.
… I wonder how many other people she has talked to about my being rude. I don’t know person B. Maybe everyone on campus who knows A thinks I am rude.
What do you do in a situation like this?
Update: At least it wasn’t as bad as this (prank) phone call gone bad. Mature content. Bad language.